We’re often told that as long as we are true to ourselves and be the best we can be, we will be happy, whether it is on our own or in relationships. The road to that contentment may be long, but The Real Housewives of New Jersey co-star Siggy Flicker has some tips to make the journey as smooth and fulfilling as possible.

Siggy Flicker, who is also a relationship expert and author of Write Your Own Fairytale, visited the set of One-on-One with Steve Adubato to share honest and empowering advice on how to be the best “you” in a relationship.

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“[The keys to having a better life are] not just about love between a man and a woman, a woman and a woman, or a man and a man,” Flicker told Steve Adubato, PhD. “It’s about really living your life to the fullest.

“It doesn’t matter what you look like,” she added. “It just matters what you feel about yourself on the inside.”

For more advice from Flicker, or to hear about her experience as a cast member on the hit BravoTV reality series The Real Housewives of New Jersey, and whether she’ll be back for another season, check out this edition of One-on-One with Steve Adubato.